communication

The Technology Talk – The Role of Technology in Your Relationship

August 10, 2012

Technology, for better or for worse, has become a part of everyday life. Some people even desire the use of their phone over sex. In a recent survey  15% of respondents said they would rather give up sex than go without their iPhone for a weekend. Needless to say, I’m surprised. How is it that [...]

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Fifty Shades of Fiction

April 26, 2012

Fifty Shades of Grey has been vibrating in the zeitgeist’s sweet spot with such intensity that I could no longer ignore it. People kept asking me how I felt about it as a woman, a sex-writer, a sex-positive activist, and as a mother. By the time I picked up all three books I had read [...]

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Blow Hard & Prosper: Blowjob Survey Results

April 13, 2012

Last week, as Esquire Magazine declared the blowjob dead, Mark Twain laughed over a beer with Elvis, and penned a note to all of us, that we’ll never get;  “don’t worry, the reports of its death have been greatly exaggerated.” The original article was inane. But so too was a response on the Ms. Magazine [...]

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Why Would Anyone Fake An Orgasm?

April 5, 2012

Why in the world would anyone want to fake an orgasm? Some do it to get out of a bad sex session, think that it will please their partner, don’t want to hurt their partners’ feelings, or maybe the orgasm just wasn’t going to happen. You may think that it’s no big deal and that [...]

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The Business of Your Relationship – Best Friend or Enemy?

March 28, 2012

It can often be easy to get caught on the how-do-I-make-my-sex-life-better boat when it comes to your relationship. Because sex is what typically separates our romantic relationships from those with our friends, we want to make sure our sex life is all that it can be. Although I strongly believe that focusing on your intimate [...]

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Crystal Ball

March 15, 2012

One of the common myths about relationships is that sexual behavior should come naturally. Further, there is often the assumption that if your partner really truly cared about you, s/he should know exactly what turns you on without you even saying anything. According to a small poll of mine, when respondents were asked if they [...]

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Polysaturated: Too Much Is Too Much

July 1, 2011

I’m in a long term open relationship with two  women. I am engaged to marry one of them, however that relationships has been rocky for a while. However, I met a new woman, with whom I feel very connected and want to have a relationship. My fiancée became challenged by my new relationship, asked for a week [...]

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I Don’t Want A Relationship

June 24, 2011

We’re the same age, roughly. With alarmingly similar dispositions. We have more fun with each other than with just about anyone else. We sleep brilliantly together, (origami style, no less.) We want the same things, think the same way. We are both recently out of intense relationships with people for whom we would have done [...]

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Faking It, Honestly?

June 23, 2011

I have been dating a guy for a while, and we have great sex. Thing is, when I started dating him, I didn’t think it was going to go anywhere, just be casual sex. However, things are great, like really great, and we’ve been together for 7 months now. Great, right? No. The problem is [...]

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In Love With A Pussy Man?

June 12, 2011

I met a guy recently, and fell totally in love. We are both in our 40′s raising kids, heads typically grounded, but we found ourselves laying in bed saying things like “I guess I’ve never been in love before.” It was that amazing. We made future plans (some concrete like vacations, some just imaginary,) our [...]

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