BDSM

Fifty Shades of Fiction

April 26, 2012

Fifty Shades of Grey has been vibrating in the zeitgeist’s sweet spot with such intensity that I could no longer ignore it. People kept asking me how I felt about it as a woman, a sex-writer, a sex-positive activist, and as a mother. By the time I picked up all three books I had read [...]

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Tie Me Up & Worship Me

December 8, 2011

Whenever I speak – or write – about women’s sexuality in the context of empowerment, some very well-meaning person (usually a woman) will want to chat, with that knowing wink-wink nod-nod that assumes we will agree, about BDSM play. Invariably, they want me to agree with them that images of women tied up, bound, gagged [...]

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Kids Sing The Darndest Things (And Random Musings on S&M)

May 13, 2011

I was driving my daughters and one of Cindy’s friends home from school the other day and I had the radio on. I’m usually listening to NPR or my iPod but my daughter’s friend requested a specific station. When I tuned in to that station after the ads it played Rhianna’s song “S & M”. [...]

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Safeword Role-Play (or Intro To S/M For The “Vanilla” Couple)

March 18, 2011

A girlfriend of mine (and fellow mother) related a story to me about a recent sexual encounter she recently had. **Explicit content** –  relatively speaking  :) She and her partner were having sex one evening.  The two of them proceeded to get a little rougher in their play than normal. It was at the point [...]

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