Sexionary – S
Safe Word – Switch
Safe Word A safe word is the most vital implement in any consensual sex act that involves power play in which one person is dominating another person. With a safe word, everybody involved knows that his or her boundaries and safety will be respected. It should NOT be something like “no,” or “stop,” because in role-playing, “forcing” someone to do something is an important component of the play. A good safe word is something that you would never say in the course of sex play. One of us uses “tomato” as a safe word, and it works really well.
Scat / Coprophilia This is about sexual play with poop. We try to pretend this doesn’t exist. We do not want to shame anyone, and if it’s your thing, you go for it. But it is not healthy, not safe, not clean and not something that we want to think about.
Sexting Sexting is a way of using your mobile phone to increase your odds of getting laid. Or of getting caught in an extramarital affair, like Tiger Woods who was sexting like crazy with 140 characters. A sext message is a text message of a sexy nature. Between consenting adults, it’s damned hot. After all, what could make a bad day better than a note from your lover saying, “I can still feel your perfect nipples in my mouth?” However, we do worry about kids these days, sending photos of themselves to other kids. Those photos can spread quickly and ruin a day. We also worry about people like Tiger, who are just stupid. So, for you all, we remind you that you always need to practice Safe Sexting. Don’t do it unless you really trust the person. For the rest of us adults who like a little filthy pick-me-up, keep ‘em coming. (Sure, we sometimes show our friends, but we don’t forward them or publish them or anything.)
Six Packing Although we like a cut set of six-pack abs as much as the next folks, when it comes to sex, “six pack” is a sex act, not an adjective. It is the act of putting your ring finger in a girls pussy and your thumb in her ass (or vice versa) in exactly the same way you would to pick up a six pack of beer cans. (The ones with those plastic rings, not the micro brews that snobs like us usually drink.)
Sixty Nine What could be better than getting eaten out? Oh, getting eaten out while eating out the person who’s eating you out. Although one of us thought it was a tribute to the year of her birth, it turns out it’s really just that if you picture a 6 lying on top of a 9, they fit together perfectly with their “heads” in each other’s crotches. Simple.
Snowballing So there’s this guy, and he’s fucking two women at the same time. (We assume he’s very happy and telling them both how cool they are.) He then cums in one of the women and the other women sucks the cum out of the girl who has it, and they then pass it back and forth in their mouths for a while. It’s easiest if the guy just cums in one of their mouths, but we’ve seen it sucked out of asses and pussies. Why? Who knows.
Soft Core Generally speaking, entertainment – like photos, videos, & fiction – that depicts naked people doing almost anything except penetrating anything in any way. Stripping, touching, rubbing, caressing, kissing….
Soft Swap / Partial Swap In swinging lingo, a soft swap or partial swap couple is a couple who messes around with other couples, but there is no sexual intercourse. So it’s not so much swinging, as sitting on the swing but not letting your feet off the ground. There are very good safe sex reasons to do this.
Spunk Spunk is one of about a jillion words for cum. It is used a lot because it rhymes with Funky, and let’s face it, funky spunk is everywhere, and not a great thing. There are a lot of things that can impact the smell and flavor of one’s spunk. Cigarettes make everyone taste yuckier (and they kill you.) Pot can make your spunk taste like bleach. If you want to make it taste better, eat lots of pineapple and cinnamon. It works, really – for both boys and girls.
Strap-On For those of us who don’t have cocks and would like to fuck someone, a strap-on is the only way to really do it. It is a dildo that is attached to a leg harness so that a woman can have a penis for a little while. They are very common in lesbian play, and seem to be on the rise with hetero play also, as men become slightly more open to finding out about things like prostate orgasms. They are also very popular in BDSM play, for straight men who want to be dominated and fucked by a woman. You can get them in a variety of sizes and styles, just like real penises. You need one that works for you, just like real penises.
Swinging Swingers are people who are in committed relationships with one or more people, and routinely have open and consensual sex with multiple other partners. Swinging is often called, “the Lifestyle,” which we think is a bit arrogant, because there are lots of lifestyles. Swingers tend to find each other, swing together, have swinger parties and swinger clubs and other social activities with each other, for obvious reasons. (You can’t swing alone, after all.) Swinging is not the same as adultery. Adultery is rooted in lying, swinging is rooted in honesty. Lying sucks and is always bad. Honesty rocks and is always good.
Switch In the BDSM world, a “switch” is someone who can and does play as both a top and a bottom. Just like anything else in a relationship, this can change with time – and certainly people feel and do different things with different people.