How To Give Him A Blow Job

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If you ask any guy, look at the porn section of any adult store, or listen to the locker room chatter, a blow-job is perhaps the most coveted “goal” of most guys.  And it seems so simple – because it is.  Yet, you hear all sorts of women say they don’t like it, or don’t know how to do it, or….  Excuses excuses, excuses.

I hear you, it can smell bad, it can make you gag, it can be scary, and it can be a terribly insecure feeling if you don’t know if you’re doing it right.  But all of that is surmountable, so to speak, and there is no good reason that you can’t suck cock like a champ, and really enjoy it.

First, get to know the basic parts:

1. The shaft: Self explanatory, the shaft is the long part, the part they measure in inches. It’s the “hot dog,” “sausage,” “banana.”
2. The head: The tip, the part wearing the little hat, that has the eye in the top. Concentrate at the little lower ledge at the bottom of the “hat.”
3. The balls: Do not ignore the balls. Yes, they are supposed to be two different sizes. Yes, they often have hair on them, (and yes, that can often be negotiated away.)
4. The perineum: This is the spot of skin between the base of the balls and the anus. It is fantastically sensitive on both men and women.
5. The magic spot: On the underside of the penis, just below where the “hat” of the head comes together in a little divet, there is a cluster of nerves that are very sensitive. Look for it. Find it. use it.

So let’s get started.

• Tease the poor guy a little.  Don’t just whip the thing out and start at it.  Rub your hand around his thighs and butt while he’s still dressed.  Let him wonder if you going to touch his cock, and when you do, only do it briefly.  Build up until you’re rubbing it through his clothes and you can feel that it’s hard, and ready for you.
• HOORAY, he’s ready.  Bring it out and look at it.  Don’t forget to tell him that you like it. A simple “yum,” or whatever, but let him know you like it. Don’t forget his balls.  They like to be rubbed too, gently at first, they’re really sensitive and you don’t want to hurt him, too much.
• If it’s standing up at attention, then it’s begging for a kiss.  But you want to make sure that your lips and mouth are wet – no pulling and chaffing.   Keep teasing a little, open your mouth and look at him, get close enough that he can feel the heat of your mouth on it, but don’t do it.
• Okay, I give up, do it.  Start at the bottom and lick it like an ice-cream cone.  If you get to the tip and it’s dripping a bit, use your tongue to spread it around a little, nice and slippy, it’ll help…
• Don’t forget his balls, and your hands.  While you are licking and sucking, your hands can be playing with his balls, and rubbing the skin between his balls and his anus, and maybe rib his anus a bit with your fingers – they may not know they like that, but they will.

By now, he’s probably going a bit crazy, time to take the whole thing in your mouth.  Just make sure your teeth are out of the way, and start with the long, deep sucking.  Now, I think there’s some balance to be found here.  You want to get a good rhythm going, but you don’t want to be monotonous.  So you can’t get in a rut.

• Break it up by taking it all out and sucking his balls instead.  Yum.
• Linger at the top and suck just the head, trace the little ridge around the top with your tongue.
• Put it all back in (and out and in and out) but while you are sliding it around, trace the magic spot with your tongue. Flick it, as if it were your clit.
• Play with the hole, can you wiggle your tongue around that at all?
• Try to relax enough that it actually hits the back for your throat – you’ll have to kind stretch you neck and bend your head back, but you’ll get it eventually.  (There’s a bonus for you, if you can do this, but I’ll get to that later.)
• Use your fingers to make a “ring” and slide that up and down while you play with the head.
• Put your mouth and tongue only on the tip and the magic spot, but slide one hand up and down the shaft. Use your other hand to grip his balls gently, but with enough strength that you pull the shaft so that the skin on the shaft doesn’t’ slide up and down with your hands, that doesn’t feel good.

But keep returning to that full cock suck, with all of it in your mouth.

If you’ve been doing all this, the poor guy is probably about to explode.  Especially if you’ve been moaning, and making sure that he can see you, because guys, generally speaking, love to watch women suck their cocks. (Seriously, a little eye-contact with his cock in your mouth will make him crazy!)

So now, it’s up to you.  He’s gonna have to cum, so where do you want it? Some women like to swallow, some don’t.  There’s no right or wrong here….  But some things to keep in mind.

There isn’t that much of it, no matter who they are.

If you can get it all the way into your throat, you are way past the taste buds, so you won’t taste it.  (That’s the bonus I was talking about earlier.)

Or have him cum on your tits, or your face, or anywhere.  (I had a lover whose girlfriend used to freeze it in ice-cube trays and use it as a facial mask, because the stuff’s great for your skin.  I was never able to do that, but hey, the point is, there’s no such thing as normal.)

It’s also great lube, so if your guy likes to be massaged after the fact, run your hands through it and then just gently rub his cock as your way of saying thank you…

And believe me, he’ll be finding a way to thank you, just as soon as he recovers.

So, if you don’t think you like it, and don’t think you’re good at it, just practice, and you’ll get better.  And the better you get, the better you’ll like it.  And I’d bet everything I have that your lover will be willing to let you practice on him.  Just ask him to guide you, to tell you what he likes, what feels good…. Trust me, he’d be happy to help.  And you will feel great for making him feel so great.

Now that you’ve got that figured out, it’s time to learn how to eat pussy. If nothing else, you probably have a friend who could benefit from a refresher course. You can blame us, share it as a joke, no one needs to know…..

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